Clarice

“When we lose an elderly person, we lose a library of knowledge.”

I don’t remember the source of the above quotation, but I believe it expresses a truth.  When I think of a person with high regard for the elderly, I immediately think of my sister Clarice. Perhaps her caring nature and unusual maturity came from her experience as the oldest sister to 10 siblings in our family. Clarice was friendly to every one, but especially she was patient and kind to older people, even when most of her peers were not much interested. Clarice’s retention of names was impressive, but she also could recall various family narratives and how families were connected. Her warm personality caused people to trust her and love her. It is no wonder she became a nurse.

In the past on Memorial Day weekends, all my sisters, Clarice, Alline, Hazel, and I would visit several cemeteries. We enjoyed going to the grave sites, leaving flowers, and talking about the past lives of our loved ones. But Clarice had a broader focus. She would pause and read the head stones of individuals that my sisters and I had not thought about for several years. She could recall the details of many people although so many of the names she spoke sounded as if they belonged in a time of the long ago. There were names such as Greenberry, Lucretia, Gabriel, Louvenia, Jency, Isaac, Ardenia, Serexie, Coleman, and on and on. I loved hearing Clarice’s voice reading those names. It brought back warm thoughts of hearing my mom and dad going over their own recollections of those very same people.

Thank you, Clarice, for remembering all of them for all of us. My dear sister, what a blessing you were for anyone who touched your life.

Remembering my sister-in-law Kathy

These last few days, I’ve been remembering my sister-in-law Kathy. Her birthday is today. Most often I like to think of Kathy in her garden where she grew beautiful lilies and hosta and other perennials. But I also remember that Kathy loved nature in other ways as well. She loved all kinds of animal babies, especially when they were born with handicaps, and especially when they were rejected by their parents. Those helpless little odd balls got right to Kathy’s heart. She could even love handicapped baby birds when they were in their very ugliest stage….you know what I mean…..when they look as if there is nothing to them except a huge mouth and naked skin.

I am amazed at how much compassion and careful attention were required of Kathy in helping the fledglings to survive, to stay warm, and to grow. I have so much respect for her open-mindedness and acceptance of the not-so-perfect little creatures. I like to consider what I think are the beautiful parts of Kathy’s endeavors. First of all, I don’t think Kathy saw the little animal babies as hopeless. She must have had confidence that she could help make their lives better. And secondly, the creatures themselves responded to Kathy’s loving care and proved she was right.

Happy birthday in heaven, Kathy